3 Quick Ways to Improve Your Self-Care
Entrepreneurial women can do it all, right?
Build a successful business, create an amazing nest and care for everyone in it – wait, what? Everyone? Hmmm…
Especially in the beginning of building our businesses, we boss babes frequently put ourselves last on the To Do list of people to care for
When my clients first come to me for coaching, many of them lament that
By the day’s end, they’re too tired to make a healthy meal, take a relaxing bath, or read the book that has sat on their nightstand for two years.
So they heat up something quick in the microwave, watch mindless television, and fall into bed exhausted without taking off their makeup, wondering where the day went.
But they can’t sleep because their mind stays awake with exciting ideas for their biz, and their alarm sounds way too early in the morning.
They can only get
They promise themselves they’ll go to bed earlier that night, get a good night’s sleep, and start a self-care routine starting tomorrow.
But the same pattern happens over and over, and they never get to the place of consistent self-care that would turn around everything in their biz and life.
Only YOU can care for YOU
I’ll cut to the chase – you’re the only one who can take care of you. Duh, right? But if you know that, why aren’t you doing it?
Here’s the first solution:
Start setting boundaries with yourself.
Most people aren’t gonna ask that you do less for them and give you money for a spa day.
It’s not that they don’t appreciate all that you do for them, they’re simply not thinking of how much you actually do for them. Our loved ones are preoccupied with their own concerns.
So, don’t wait for others to tell you to take time for yourself. That’s a decision you have to make. Today.
Should you stop caring for others?
I’m not saying stop taking care of others. Just reduce it. Then create ways to make time for yourself.
For example, if you make kiddos’ lunches, teach them how to do some of the packing themselves. Or, if you plan and make all the dinners, let your spouse know how much you’d love it if s/he would make dinner (at least) once a week.
Or is it time for you to hire a Virtual Assistant? Even for a project here and there?
Just make sure to use your newly acquired time to do something good for yourself.
You don’t have to do every single thing on your To Do list, every single day.
The world (and your biz) won’t stop if you take a few (or 60) minutes for yourself each day.
I loathe being a doomsday reporter, but when you don’t balance your business and personal life with self-care, it can lead to stress, health issues, and sleep problems.
3 Quick and Easy Self-Care Tips
Now that my rant is done (I do it out of love!), here are ways you can start caring for yourself immediately:
Walk 3 minutes every hour.
Up and down a hallway at home or on the job, or walk around the block.
Use your phone or a timer as you walk. Or carry a pedometer so you see how far you walk each week.
Fast or slow, just do it. No excuses – we all have 3 minutes.
Close your eyes and just breathe for 3 minutes every hour.
Definitely set an alarm for this.
You’ll be amazed how long (and wonderful) 3 minutes is when you aren’t doing anything but breathing
When thoughts come, gently send them away, knowing you can deal with them when you’re done breathing.
Adding this on after your walk would be ideal.
3-Give Your Brain and Eyes a Rest
Stay off your phone and computer ½ day per week. For those of you who just said, “1/2 day, that’s nothing,” do one full day.
A personal note on #3 – I recently stayed off my phone and social media one entire day ~ and I experienced immediate benefits! I had a feeling of grounding and peace within myself.
And guess what else? It wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be. I found myself looking forward to my next ½ day off social media.
Put Your Attention on the Present Moment
During my ½ day social media break, I felt the urge to check my phone or email at least once per hour. I let the thought go in one ear and out the other. Then re-focused on what I was doing.
When the thoughts to check my phone or email came again, I observed them, then put my attention back to the present moment. Over and Over.
Each time I was able to do that, my joy slowly increased.
Like. Not. Even. Kidding.
By the end of the day, I felt exhilarated!
The most important aspect of this was the time limit – I knew I could check my electronics the next day. So definitely make your goal a certain time frame (e.g., 1 to 8 hours). And don’t give in when your habit insists you check your phone because you’re totally missing out on all the essential Facebook business posts…because it will.
Pride yourself on not being like Pavlov’s dogs.
Are you selfish for wanting “me-time”?
Some of my coaching clients worry that self-care or “me-time” is selfish.
Listen, you’re not selfish when you make time for yourself. Think of this the other way around – it’s actually selfish if you don’t take care of you.
When you take care of you, you’re a much improved person to be around (read: less grumpy) and a better role model for your clients, employees, peers, family, and friends.
The better you care for you, the more successfulCEO you become.
It doesn’t have to be one or the other – you can learn to care for yourself, others, AND your business.
Need more convincing? No one likes to hear people rattle off a list of what they do for others while neglecting themselves.
Over-busy and codependent ain’t cool anymore!
Learning self-care takes time and practice. Especially for entrepreneurs.
As I always say – do these steps for more days than not.
You don’t gotta start out saying you’re gonna do all 3 every day for the rest of your life. Be reasonable. The more realistic you are, the better chance you’ll have at succeeding.
One last thought ~ When you find yourself saying you don’t have 3 minutes to sit and breathe, consider the Zen proverb that says, “You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day — unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.” You get this, right? Now go breath. And be the amazing boss babe you already are.
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What’s keeping you from being more productive in your biz?
One of the biggest reasons biz owners aren’t more productive is distractibility.
We all get distracted, but when we’re spending more time focused on what happened in the past, what might happen in the future, or what Coach Sally said in her Facebook video, our biz productivity goes way down.
“I was looking at attending a women’s retreat and applied to be a speaker.” That’s the first sentence of a Facebook post I started to write. Then I heard a whisper…“Don’t share this, someone’s gonna ask if they accepted you, you’re gonna have to admit ‘No,’ then you’re going to feel ashamed.”
When I was 5 years old, I discovered delicious cookies! I started using them to calm my fears (it didn’t work). When I was 13, I discovered alcohol! Yep, I used whiskey and beer to calm my fears. For 13 years. (Those didn’t work either).
I thought I was forever stuck in that place of sucky relationships, a job I loathed, constantly being 15 lbs overweight and living on quesadillas, and never having enough money to do anything or go anywhere or buy anything except for paying the most important bills.
At age 49, I was desperate for a new career. I had been working in the mental health field for over 30 years. You could say I was a little burned out.